My grandparents taught me many things in life, too many to fit on a page. One of my favorites has always been to use your outside hand/arm when passing or receiving a dish being passed around the table. Believe it or not, I actually use that more than I thought I ever would. My grandmother was proper, elegant and fun too! While he was loads of fun, my grandfather was often quiet and simple. He let my grandmother get all the attention.
I suppose that was one of the ingredients in his recipe for love. She wasn’t perfect, but he loved her whole-heartedly – enough even to walk behind her – letting her shine. That’s not what every woman needs, but she needed it. If you looked at him closely, you could see that was when he shined too.
Definition: Cause or allow (someone or something) to have (something, especially something abstract); provide or supply with.
“You can give without loving, but you cannot love without giving.”
― Amy Carmichael
Giving to her brought happiness to him. I’ve often heard the phrase “No one can take away from you what you are willing to give up.” I don’t know who said it, but I can see some truth in it. She never had to take. He gave. No, I didn’t see every moment of their life together, but I saw enough.
And together, they gave to others.
That’s where my family comes into the picture.
My mom’s parents both died in her 20s. She had 3 small children and no mom or dad to call on the phone. Meeting a need, the Lord saw fit to bring my parents together with Mrs. Alice and Mr. Bill, who had no children of their own. While my mom now had parents to love her and invest in her at this crucial time in her life, they now had a daughter. And we had grandparents!
I’m sure it took time to all fall into place, but I never knew that.
For me, it just always was.
And that is just the beginning.